Khloe Kardashian-Odom was interviewed about how she and her husband have had to fight for their marriage in the limelight. And then she said something that, unfortunately, doesn't get said often in Hollywood:
"Divorce is not an option."
Well said. And I actually think it MUST be this way--which is why Justin and I have completely omitted this one word from the vocabulary of our marriage:
It just does not get said. Not in reference to us, anyway. Not even on the toughest days. I've been a selfish, stupid idiot at times but not even in my most selfish seasons did he utter it. Not even on our worst days have I threatened it. We've been together for 12 years and we've never even mentioned the possibility of "us" not being "us."
It's not something that has ever been on the table. I'm broken over the fact that, in a lot of marriages, it's a word that just sort of gets dangled out there. Perhaps to try and inspire change in the other. Perhaps as a threat. Perhaps because people have already begun to think about a Plan B.
Is divorce on the table for you? Please--and I pray this comes across with the love in which it's intended--Get it off. Like, right now. Has the possibility of a split been thrown out there? Let me plead with you to make a fresh commitment with your spouse to remove that option from your marriage. Stop using the word. No more making a back-up plan. When we even begin to think along the lines of a Plan B scenario, it erodes our Plan A. It eats away at a marriage. The moment it even appears that that option exists, it's too easy to end up going that route eventually.
My own parents' divorce became final just 2 days before Christmas my Kindergarten year. It has always been something I NEVER wanted to personally experience. Banning the word "divorce" from our conversations was just one of those proactive decisions made on the front-end in the name of protecting our marriage.
I committed myself to Justin. For life. Good. Bad. Tough. Beautiful. Funny. Not funny. All of it. He married me for the same.
We have no plans to be anywhere else. I am his Plan A. He is mine.
There is no Plan B.
LORD Jesus, please guard our marriages with love and diligence. I pray specifically for anyone who may be in need of Your healing over their marriage. Remind Your child today that against all hope it's still fitting to believe You can restore even the most broken of things.